Public Affairs.

Let's start with Affairs.

We adults know what it is. Maybe for some of us, we might have come into counter in this situation. Affair is a tricky term. Because doesn't it mean it is suppose to be secret? But then, there's private affairs (very lowprofil). secret affairs (this must be a scandalous one and the only person who knows is between the twos). Ever heard of public affairs? It's like a wrong relationship that shouldn't be happening in the first place and should be kept secret but it was made known.

If you're in an affair, make sure it's either kept private or secret (in nature there's not much of a difference). Make sure you keep it subtle and no one ever finds out. That is how you wanted it to be, isn't it? YES. Because if the answer is not in affirmative, you in it for the public affairs.

Coming down to Public Affairs, i should warn you that people around you ARE going to find out. Like com'on okay, even in secret affair people can tell, what more making it public. I don't need to make a list acts tantamounting to making it obvious. I think we all human can agree that there's a fine line on two people making obvious act that there's something intimate going on between the them.

My only question is.....

When you put yourself in this situation, can you really blame people around you for talking and making fun out of it?

I get it, what one does in their personal life is their own buisness. It actually is, no one is stopping you from doing anything. You can continue to be in that state without others approval. Only problem is, people are going to talk about it. They are going to pass judgement. When you are seen together, and you don't even need to be together, it is sufficient you both are in the same room, thoughts are going to run through people's mind. And people are going to make faces.

When this occur? Do you have the right to stop / get mad at people with these reactions?

I like to answer my own question. The answer above is No you don't.

The way i see it, you put youself in that situation. You should have thought of your act in the beginning. You should have known that you live in a society where such affair is frown upon. You are part of that soceity too, you know exactly the reason why it is frown upon. It's too bad that you don't like how people view and react to it.

You can get annoyed at them. Hate them. Be mad at them. Get back at them. But keep it to youselft as your own private emotional affairs. You don't have the right to express those emotion to them. You can't stop them from those reaction. They never stop you, did they?

Honestly speaking from my tiny eenie meenie mo experience and observations from people in my vacinity, affairs is just a relationship that is not meant to be. Not like you two are not meant to be together type of thing. But it's just wrong for some perfectly valid reasons. Reasons we ourself agree on. But sometime we just can't help ourself....

Speaking in general here, i'm sure some affairs have their own exceptional excuses. Some are ashame to be seen together which is still wrong because why should you be ashame of the person you love? Some might have some problems with their current relationship which could justify the affair. But my advice is not to prolonged the problem and find a solution. The longer it is, people are going to hurt deeper. And there are some that are in it for the fun and excitement.

We all grown up can decide what's best for ourself. If you're in an affair-Think. If it's going somewhere then i guess it's fine. But you don't see an aisle, why put yourself in the middle of nowhere.

*the same applies to relationship. If you don't see a future, why risk youself the chance of broken hearted. If you don't see the relationship progressing. If you're always getting hurt. Why put youself in such misery. Please know what you are worth.